Do You Really Want A Divorce?

When you were standing at the church so long ago and you heard the statement "for better or for worse", did you concentrate on the "better" rather than the "worse" part of that vow? Chances are that you did since you were probably madly in love and assumed that love can resolve any problem.

What you did not recognize is that circumstances change, and if a partnership does not change together as circumstances and situations change, they are going to unavoidably grow apart. Oftentimes they grow apart to the point where the various forks in the road that they separately took don't have a snowball's chance of meeting up again, at least not without healthy effort on the part of both spouses.

Before you make any rash decisions and begin spouting statistics stating that more than 50% of all marriages end in divorce, you must recognize that although that is statistically accurate, that does not automatically mean it applies to you and your situation. Each case is unique and every couple having problems has a specific and unique set of circumstances to evaluate.

First off, do both of you really want a divorce? If only one of you wants a divorce, then it is going to be a tough struggle, but if both of you want a divorce, then both of you need to realize what is at stake and how to get ready for it, both financially as well as emotionally. Divorce can be done cleanly without a lot of trouble but you are still going to want to make sure you know your rights, since if the love you once had is now wiped out, there is a good chance you could get shafted in the settlement procedures before you even realize it if you are not familiar with your divorce rights.

But don't be in such a rush to go there - do you really desire a divorce? You need to recognize what the problem is and see what can be done. Compromises can be established on both parts that can return what you once had. Take some time to concentrate on each other and recall what it was that attracted you to the other person before you got married. You say that person no longer exists? Don't be so sure, because with compromises to get rid of the maybe really little things that pulled you apart, it may not be as tough as you believe to return yourselves back to the romantic relationship you had at one time. And consider the fact that if you can handle that, which is going to require work on both parts, isn't that really a whole lot simpler than returning to the bar scene to meet a new person?

The bottom line is that you need to find what you desire and what is best for you in the long term. Divorce may be the answer you are looking for, but keep in mind that divorce also produces a totally new set of problems for you to struggle with, and the grass on that side of the fence may not be as green as it appears from where you are now.

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