Disastrous Sex Mistakes Men Make

If you're looking for some guidance on how to make your bedroom activities go with a bang, follow our easy tips for sexual success!

First Sex Mistake

Pushing your partner to do anything she isn't comfortable with. So, if you've been thinking about trying the outrageous sex positions adopted by some porn stars, forget it! Begin from a more realistic place: think what she wants. Being sexually relaxed involves a couple of for a woman: first of all, she has to be physically relaxed. That might mean she isn't going to feel too cheerful if you ask her to stretch her legs behind her ears while you make love. It might also mean that you have to forego any sex position that gives you the deepest thrusting, because your penis might bang her cervix and give her some acute discomfort. Second, she has to feel emotionally relaxed. So if you have sex with her like one of those porn stars might, she isn't going to be too happy either, and you're not likely to be invited back to have sex again any time soon. This includes: wanting to ejaculate over any part of her body without her whole-hearted agreement, using dirty talk that is disrespectful to her, wanting to smack her ass if she isn't into that sort of sex play, and thoughtlessly treating her like an impersonal sex object rather than your highly desirable lover.

Second Sex Mistake

Being too much of a gentleman. There's an old pithy maxim: "A gentleman takes his weight on his arms." If you think this and other such quaint customs are the best way to behave during sex in the missionary, did you ever think to ask your partner what she needs? A lot of women want to feel the weight of their man on top of them during lovemaking. They explain this by saying it makes them feel safe and secure, or they say they just like to feel the energy and power of their man in this sex position.

Yes, if you're a lot heavier than she is, you might squash her, so exercise some judgement, but generally, in the man on top sex position, let her feel your heaviness! And in all sex positions, remember to ask her what she likes!

Third Sex Mistake

If she's in the woman on top position, don't just lie still like a log when she's enjoying herself - match her thrusts, have fun, be adventurous and enjoy your lovemaking. If she's riding you, remember that you can still thrust during sex in this position. You can thrust your hips to match her actions, you can raise your knees to vary the angle at which your penis penetrates her vagina, and you can cuddle her breasts and clitoris if she's looking towards you while you have sex.

Remember that you don't want her to lay motionless under you during man on top sex, so in this position, return the favour and thrust yourself!

Fourth Sex Mistake

Being too aggressive during sex. While some women like forceful sex, remember that for a woman, sex tends to be something special and she'd like you to approach it that way too! That means not pounding away in her vagina without having her encouragement, not being selfish (e.g. having an orgasm yourself but not bothering to help her to orgasm herself), and not throwing her around rudely during sex.

If you want to show how great a lover you are by being a bit dominant, do it with firmness and kindness, rather than by flinging her around the bed like a rag doll. Needless to say, this advice applies in any and all sex positions!

Fifth Sex Mistake

Sticking to the same old sex positions every time you make love

While you don't have to try all the challenging positions you can find on the internet, a bit of variation genuinely adds spice to your sex life. Even if you're really fond of the man on top sex position, for example, sex in the rear entry or side by side positions will let you see sex very differently, you may well get much more aroused, and you will certainly get some new and different sexual sensations! See http://www.sex-and-relationships.com/ for more information on great sex positions!

Rod Phillips is a counselor with http://www.sex-and-relationships.com..