Better Relationship? Men & Emotions

The phrases, "better relationship" and "men", often are not mentioned in the same sentence without a punch line following them. In addition, men are often stereotyped as being insensitive or uncaring when it comes to the needs of their partner. It has been my experience in coaching men that these stereotypes cannot be further from the truth.

Men almost always describe the same experiences that women do in their relationships: feelings of loneliness, low self-esteem, inadequacy, powerlessness, the need for a better relationship, etc. In addition, the fear of rejection from their partner is always a constant in the back of their mind, influencing their every action within the relationship.

The biggest trap that men fall into when trying to build a better relationship is when they look to their partner for validation and approval. This is extremely common, and in doing this they give away their inner power to their partner and as a result become resentful and passive-aggressive. This, then leads to an ongoing cycle of the man seeking validation and approval again.

Since anger is the only emotion that is socially acceptable for men to express, men are not taught how to, 1) identify their feelings; and 2) express them appropriately. Anger, along with the resentment, passive-aggressive behaviors and the resulting rejection that a man would experience from their partners, can lead to an overall “emotional shutdown” observed often in men. Creating a better relationship would obviously be furthest from his mind at this point.

When attempting to create a better relationship with men, it must be taken into consideration that the hurdles may be different than women, however their concern about showing up honestly within their relationships is the same. A man who is apprehensive about being rejected and slow to be emotionally vulnerable will appear resistive and unwilling to work on the relationship. If taught how to express their emotions in a mature masculine way, men will be able to experience vulnerability in a safe manner and feel a sense of relief and empowerment as they re-learn how to contribute authentically within their new, better relationship.

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