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<title>Celebrate the Wedding Anniversary in Style</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 30 Jun 2008 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[  It's not uncommon for both of them to forget their anniversary and only days later say, "Oh, by the way, happy anniversary for last week." I don't understand, I've always thought that wedding anniversaries are special events in the lives of married couples. Ideally, they testify to the endurance of love. They also provide opportunities to look back on your marriage and marvel at how far you've progressed as a couple, and the obstacles that you've overcome. They give you time to celebrate all of the good times that you've had and to look forward to the years ahead. I can't help it, I'm an incurable romantic. Plus they're a good excuse to throw one hell of a party.<br /><br />Wedding anniversary gifts have long been associated with certain symbols and materials. Over time some of the traditional gifts have made way for more modern items, but they still serve to highlight milestones that are generally achieved year by year. Gifts for the first few years tend to symbolise endurance, commitment and growth. First year anniversary gifts, for example, include paper and clocks. Paper is supposed to symbolise strength, like the strength that comes from the interlocking threads from which paper is made. A clock is a testament to your dedication and commitment to the road ahead. Cotton, a second year gift, stands for durability and versatility.<br /><br />It's only really from the tenth year that gifts start to increase in value, which is equated with the increased worth that your marriage holds as time passes. One of the recommended gifts for a tenth year anniversary is diamonds. Diamonds feature in many anniversaries, probably because they are so precious, but also because they are impossible to break. Other ten-year gifts include tin and aluminium, to once again remind you that your marriage needs to be flexible and strong.<br /><br />My grandparents were married for over 60 years, at which point diamonds and gold feature prominently. It is also at this point that diamonds stop serving as a reminder to be strong and start testifying to the constancy of your love. If you've been avoiding diamonds since your 10th anniversary, now is the time to splash out on something extravagant. A magnificent yellow diamond, the traditional 60-year anniversary gift, ought to do it.<br /><br />Marriages are successful not only because of the hard work of the couple concerned, but also because the couple has the love and support of friends and family. As the years progress and you venture into the double figures, it's important to occasionally include your extended circle of loved ones in your celebrations.<br /><br />Significant wedding anniversaries that should be celebrated with a proper shindig can probably be counted in decades, starting with the 10th and moving on up. On occasions such as these it's often a good idea to hire professionals to handle all of the arrangements, from the catering through to the décor and the clean up afterwards. Any number of events companies specialise in private celebrations such as wedding anniversaries. You can rely on their vast experience in the field to ensure that all of your anniversaries are as magical and as memorable as your years of marriage have been.<br /><br />--<br />Shawn Kohan writes article on many topics including <a href="http://www.Oroking.com">anniversary rings</a> and <a href="http://www.Oroking.com">diamond bracelet</a><br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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<title>Marriage Counseling Won't Help If You Try To Change Your Spouse</title>
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<pubDate>Tue, 03 Feb 2009 06:40:55 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[ <p><span style="font-weight: bold;">Here is a letter I received from someone who read one of my blogs</span></p><br/><br/>
 <p>Dear Paul,</p><br/><br/>
 <p>It is true that one ought not to adopt the role of a teacher...that would not be appropriate in a relationship...one wants to love and be loved...</p><br/><br/>
 <p>However, I am not convinced why we should avoid trying to help each other grow. Certainly one should not aim at upsetting another by pointing out their flaws to them, nevertheless, one can help oneself and one's partner to grow out of weaknesses, by TALKING and COMMUNICATING...turning a blind eye is not a constructive option...</p><br/><br/>
 <p>One aspect of loving is to help our partners grow... Of course only if they want to... I certainly do not support the approach where one avoids dealing with one's own sensitivities first, I neither concur to the notion that one should be silent on the other's weaknesses... at the end of the day, mutual love includes the endeavor for mutual growth... while not being a teacher but a lover!</p><br/><br/>
 <p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">My Answer</span></p><br/><br/>
 <p>Dear Patty,</p> <br/><br/>
<p>I admire your own desire for personal growth. It stands out very clearly. Let me start my response by acknowledging there are no absolutes in this world. There is no end to the variety of individual personalities and complicated associations. I would never dream of telling you what you must or must not do; it is always your choice in the beginning, middle and end. The last thing I wish to do is impose any rule upon you and yet I wish to share with you, as best as I am able to, those things which have proven themselves time and again.</p> <br/><br/>
<p>As a human being I have limitations I am not aware of. One day I was riding in beautiful Arizona with my spiritual counselor, I asked him to tell me what my greatest flaw was. He said no, that I wouldn't listen. I pestered him until he finally agreed to tell me. However, he wouldn't tell me right away, but said he would tell me when we reached a mountain peak that was about 20 minutes away. I used that time wisely by telling my mind over and over again not to get defensive. I know how the mind works and I knew my mind would not want to hear that which it was not ready to hear. I had the opportunity to have a saint's perspective on my worst flaw and I didn't want to blow it. For 20 minutes my mantra was, "Just listen, don't say a word." When we finally reached the spot, I said, "OK Brother, what's my flaw?" No sooner did he get it passed his lips, then I said... "But!" ... And that was it. I couldn't even remember what he said. No matter how I begged him after that he wouldn't tell me. To this day I have no idea what he said.</p><br/><br/>
 <p>When we are close to somebody we see things others do not. We see things that are beautiful that most people miss, and we see things that are not so beautiful. One of the key requirements (and I use that term "requirement" with all seriousness) for a <a href="http://www.lessonsforahappymarriage.com">happy marriage</a> is respect. Is it not respectful to avoid pointing out others weaknesses? If someone had a broken arm it would just be mean to ask them to help you move a piano because it would illustrate the temporary flaw of the broken arm. If a person did not have great intelligence, and you knew it, you would never ask them to do something that required the use of great intelligence because it would only hurt them as they tried to please you but could not. Nor is it nice to point out a person's psychological or emotional flaw for the same reasons.</p><br/><br/>
 <p>The flaws we see in others may be 'spot on' accurate perceptions. Furthermore, if the person would lose that particular flaw it would be incredible in terms of relieving some of their burden. Most flaws are not so easily removed, and what we see is only the tiny plant flaw supported by the myriad root flaws beneath the surface. The focus and energy required to remove even small flaws is great and the person may not be ready, not out of a lack of desire, but for other reasons not easily described. In that case, when a flaw is pointed out, it can do more harm than good by making the person self-conscious or defensive.</p> <br/><br/>
<p>On the other hand speaking of things in a general manner, goals and aspirations for oneself can be inspiring for the other. It is by inspiration, or pain that an individual is prodded towards their own self improvement. In the special relationship of marriage keeping the goal of harmony and support uppermost in your mind will assure you have a wonderful marriage. That is why I suggest people choose to be inspirations by their own examples rather than critics who may wish to help, but end up hurting the most important person in their life.</p> <br/><br/>
<p>I do hope I have not offended your sense of what is correct by my explanation and that it is of some use to you.</p><br/><br/>
 <p>In Friendship,</p><br/><br/>
 <p>Paul</p>
<br /><br />--<br />Paul Friedman, author of <a href="http://www.lessonsforahappymarriage.com">Lessons For A Happy Marriage</a>, entered into the business of helping couples mend their marriages after a very rough personal experience with divorce.  He discovered the truth from his clients: <i>they only sought divorce because the help they found to stay together didn't work</i>. Read more on the <a href="http://lessonsforahappymarriage.com/relationship-advice-blog.html">Relationship Advice Blog</a>.<br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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<title>10 Creative Marriage Proposals</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 08 Jan 2009 22:03:29 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[ Marriage proposals made over a romantic dinner are not always creative. Most ladies dream about the day their dream guy proposes to them and expects the day to be perfect in every way. A recent study showed that most married ladies felt that their partners splurged extravagantly on marriage proposals but that the unoriginality of it left them disappointed. <br /><br />One creative way to propose for spouses in a long distance relationship is to have a surprise visit and set up a scavenger hunt. You may have a friend give your spouse instructions for the hunt. You might hide tiny surprises like candy, flowers and a CD on the first stops during the scavenger hunt, and then hide at the final location, ready to propose when your girlfriend completes the game.<br /><br />An outdoor fan might appreciate a proposal during a camping trip. You might hide the ring in your sleeping bag to enhance the element of surprise. You could complain that there is a rock beneath you, then pull out the ring and propose. This is a creative suggestion as a camping trip isn't a common proposal destination.   <br /><br />Another way is to place an ad in a local paper. You might place an outrageous ad in a paper asking anyone wanting to get married to call you and include a fictitious phone number. While your girlfriend is reading the papers, surprise her with the ring.<br /><br />Proposing at a sports event is a creative way to propose to a sports fan. For this, you might either plan to have your proposal broadcasted over the general public address system or shown on the giant screen. If you are brave, you could contact the team's press department and get permission to propose on the field at halftime. <br /><br />Another option is to carve a heart in the last few pages of a new book of poetry, sewing the ring in it. You might suggest taking turns reading poems on each page and plan to have your girlfriend turn the final complete page to expose the ring that was hidden. <br /><br />Having the DJ of your girl's favourite radio program ask her if she'll marry you is another creative proposal idea. You might also have the DJ play a song which has a special meaning for the both of you so you can enjoy a dance together after she accepts your proposal. Another option to propose is to have all your buddies and relatives join the event by inviting them to a surprise party for your girl.<br /><br />Yet another way to propose is to hide the ring in an unusual location. You could pretend to have a clogged sink and whilst working to mend the clog, reach into the sink and pull out the ring. <br /><br />Getting the waiter to bring out the ring with the bill is another play on traditional proposal. You could pretend to hint that you will be proposing, and your girlfriend will expect your proposal with each course. Get the waiter to bring out the ring only at the end of the dinner.<br /><br />The ultimate proposal is for the girl to ask the man to wed her. Add your own creative twist by proposing to him instead of anxiously awaiting a proposal. <br />A wonderful marriage proposal does not need to be costly. A lot of ladies are likely to hold dear the memories of a proposal that was cheap but really creative.<br /><br />--<br />Do you love your girlfriend enough to propose to her in the most creative way ever? Do you want to express your undying love for her with a romantic proposal? Give the love of your life the most touching, memorable and creative marriage proposal ever. Get creative wedding tips here at <a href="http://www.all-wedding-ideas.com/wedding-ceremony-ideas.html"> All Wedding Ideas</a> for free! http://www.all-wedding-ideas.com provides all the tips that you need on the most creative and memorable proposal for your girlfriend.<br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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<title>Budget-Friendly Wedding Planning Tips</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 29 Sep 2008 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[ Every year, people spend tens of thousands of dollars on a single day the wedding day. From outrageous venues to opulent gowns, to gourmet food and free-flowing champagne, the average wedding costs anywhere between $10,000 and $20,000, if not much, much more. But for many couples, the events of the day are far less valuable than the end result being legally married to the love of their lives. While outlandishly expensive weddings seem to be the norm, in reality, getting married on a reasonable budget is by no means impossible. Follow these simple tips to get you started on your way to a beautiful day that won't jeopardize your financial future.<br /><br />1. Skip the high-season<br />Wedding season is typically considered to run from April through September. You can avoid peak prices and scheduling nightmares by planning a wedding during the off season months (October through March). Not only will you have more resources available to you, and at better prices (peak prices are typically 25-50% higher than the rest of the year, which can translate to big savings), but all of your planning will likely be less stressful, as you won't be competing for locations, venues, officiates, and caterers with thousands of other couples. <br /><br />2. Always opt for simplicity<br />One of the quickest ways to blow your wedding budget is to invite everyone you've ever met. Limit your guest list to close friends and family it's hard, but the payoff is worth it. Stick to simplicity when choosing a venue as well. Instead of renting the presidential ballroom at the swankiest hotel in town, opt for a wedding in a smaller, more personal venue. Many parks and small community churches are both beautiful and significantly less expensive than the more opulent, standard wedding venues. Or, if you're planning a wedding in your home town, use your childhood home, or the home of a close friend or relative for the occasion not only will the venue have more sentimental value, it will come with a much cheaper price tag.<br /><br />3. Enlist the help of your wedding party<br />Many people hire professional wedding planners to handle the stress of orchestrating the big event (although it's doubtful a bride has ever gotten through it all stress free with or without the help of a professional planner). But why pay a sizable retainer to have a stranger plan your wedding, when you can enlist the help and support of your family members and wedding party to bring everything together. Organize your wedding party into a planning committee (remembering that, odds are, the ladies will take on most of the responsibilities let the men handle manual labor like setting up tables and chairs) and let them all contribute to your blessed event. If they're close enough to you to be in your wedding, odds are they will be more than happy to help you make it extra special. Have friends pitch in to take pictures, too, for a more personal experience and big savings on photography.<br /><br />4. Don't stay married to tradition<br />There's no need for tuxedos and floor-length formal gowns. Crisp black suits and color-coordinated dresses are much easier to manage, and they don't require as much of an expense, as most men will already own a suit (and someone's own suit will always fit better than a rented tux), and simpler, color-coordinated dresses are more likely to be worn again (especially if you include your bridesmaids in the selection process). <br /><br />5. Opt for lighter fare<br />Skip a sit-down dinner in favor of heavy hors doeuvres you'll save big on your overall budget, and your guests will likely appreciate the more casual atmosphere. And instead of a full bar, why not offer a signature cocktail along with cheaper staples like beer and wine? Above all, your wedding should reflect you as a couple, so keep that in mind throughout the planning process, and you're sure to have a beautiful, memorable wedding day, regardless of your budget. <br /><br /><br /><br />--<br />Ki helps buyers and sellers interested in <a href="http://www.escapesomewhere.com">Austin real estate</a>.  His site also provides information on <a href="http://www.escapesomewhere.com/rates.html">mortgage interest rates</a><br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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<title>Intercaste Marriages</title>
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<pubDate>Sat, 30 Dec 2006 00:00:00 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[ Marriages are made in heaven. This is a well known saying. When two people meet and their marriage is solemnized, it is believed that this is the wish of god.<br><br>Marriage may be in the same caste or it may be inter caste. Marriages within the same caste mean that both boy and the girl belong to the same community. Intercaste marriage means girl and boy are from different castes where one member belongs to lower caste.<br><br>Marriage is a sacred institution which binds both the woman and man in a pious relation. It gives this relation a meaning. When a marriage takes place, two souls are united and this opens new vistas in their lives. But,human beings are so selfish that have virtually spoilt the sacredness of these relations.<br><br>When God created men and women, he has not assigned any caste on them. So,how can the human beings divide God's created world into castes and communities.<br><br>The things do not end up here. From the time of Kings and Queens, caste system has been practiced. In earlier days, it was customary to marry in the same castes. If anyone dares to disobey the rules of the society, he was confined to severe punishments. Whole community was barred from keeping any relation with the family where inter caste marriage had taken place.<br><br>Customs and religions practiced were so strict and merciless that even sometimes the boy and girl were hacked to death by their own family members due to the pressures from the society.<br><br>Sometimes young hearts were separated by marrying them off to other boy or girl of the same caste. This way the lovers were separated by their own relatives. There are lots of such incidents where you can find the merciless punishments inflicted by the opposition parties of the intercaste marriages.<br><br>With more globalization and increase in educational facilities, there is great change in the views of people.As modernization has affected every section of society, intercaste marriages have also received acceptance from the people in urban and modern societies. There has been wide change in the social scenario. Parents and relatives of the lovers have been coming up with more open minds with wide acceptance of marriages outside their own castes.<br><br>But in some regions which lack exposure to the education and modern society culture, things have remained unchanged. There are still oppositions by the members of different castes if they encounter any incident of intercaste marriage. These societies need some change of views so that young hearts could unite and live happily. A good relation needs understanding and devotion from boy and girl to blossom. If there are malpractices like caste system, then there will be unhealthy marital relations which increase the rate of divorces and mutual misunderstandings.<br><br>Government should come forward to make such policies and rules which can encourage marriage between the members of two different castes. There should be some type of appreciation from the government so that more intercaste marriages can take place. Though government has taken many steps to improve the situation but still there is a great need to implement more measures to make the situation happier.<br /><br />--<br /><b>About the Author</b><br>The Article is written by IndiaBook.Com  providing <a href=http://www.indiabook.com/matrimonial/>Indian Matrimonial Services Site </a> Services. IndiaBook is portal on india and Indian People.<br><br>____________________________<br><br>Copyright information.... This article is free for reproduction but must be  reproduced in its entirety, including live links & this copyright statement must be included. Visit <a href="http://www.indiabook.com">Portal On India </a> for more information and guide on India.<br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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<title>The Time to Get Past a Broken Heart Is Now</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 11 May 2009 03:01:45 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[ Have you recently being dumped? You are still not able to get past a broken heart? Do you feel like there's nothing left for you in this world now that your ex has left you? If you feel like you won't be a whole person anymore, then it's important that you read this.<br /><br />Do you have a difficult time getting past your break up? You don't think that the world would keep moving forward and needed to know what you could do. Well, it's true…a breakup can indeed put your world into a tailspin. Everything can seem out of control. Your job, your schooling, your family and your friends may all seem out of reach to you. However, even during this difficult time you can keep your senses straight as long as you remember these three things.<br /><br />First, remind yourself everyday that life does go on and you have to stay a part of it. That means do the things you would normally do. Go to school, go to work, hang out with friends…do things that seem normal so you can get over the loss and heal your broken heart faster.<br /><br />Second, figure out what you want in life. Would you like to get your ex back or would you rather move on and see if there is someone out there who is a much better match for you? It's important that this gets figured out. <br /><br />If you have chosen to move on with your life without your ex, then just remember that sitting on the couch eating bon-bons, dreaming about what once was, is not going to help you get over losing your ex or get past a broken heart.<br /><br />Third, if you feel the need to, change your look. I have a good friend who said when she divorced her husband; she needed to cut off her hair. She felt as if it were a reminder of the past she didn't want to go back to. She not only cut 10 inches off but she also colored it black. She said it was something else he did not approve of. While you don't have to justify your change of looks, you certainly can feel better about yourself doing it. <br /><br />Remember that it can be difficult to remain in control of your senses when you have been dumped. However, now you need to get past your broken heart and move forward with your future positively. You have a choice to make and the time is NOW. <br /><br /><br /><br />--<br /><a href="http://www.ForgetEx.com">Forget Your Ex </a> is the best thing you need to do now to stop struggling with your ex memories and move on after a breakup. Apply these simple techniques and get tremendous results you won't want to miss this information by learning <a href="http://www.ForgetEx.com">How to Get Past a Broken Heart </a><br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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<title>3 Reasons Why a No Contact Rule Is Important</title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 13 Nov 2008 00:00:00 -0600</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[ A breakup can cause a whirlwind of emotions that leaves you to wondering what you should be doing. The initial desire you may have is to be around your ex as much as possible. You lay hope that he or she will decide it was a mistake to break up with you and come back. However, doing that makes you look desperate which is what you don’t want to come across as. There is a simpler way you can achieve in winning your ex back. This is to completely break contact. There are 3 reasons to this method.<br /><br />No Contact Reason Number (1) - The days that follow the breakup can be very stressful and emotions are running rampant. However, those feelings can become bad for you if you let them control your actions. When you are apart, you create a buffer space that allows the time to “heal” emotionally. If you don’t spend time apart, you can ruin any chance of getting him or her back. You don’t want to talk with your ex if you are very emotional.<br /><br />No Contact Reason Number (2) - Remember the phrase “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”? You can’t be missed if you and your ex are still talking. If you aren’t apart, you can’t stop thinking about what we went wrong in your relationship. If you spend this time apart, your ex will begin to wonder why he or she ever let you go. However, this can’t be done if you still see and talk to one another. Give them the time to miss you.<br /><br />No Contact Reason Number (3) - Many things you can do without the stress of being in a relationship. If you don’t have to see him or her everyday you can better yourself without them in your face. The next time they see you, they may feel differently and wonder why they ever let you go in the first place. If they start fantasying about the new you, it makes you quite alluring to them.<br /><br />Having no contact with your ex works in more than just these 3 ways but having an idea of why it is important is just as important as wanting to be around your ex and having them back.<br /><br /><br />--<br />Teecee Go writes articles focusing on love, romance and save relationship helping people get back with their ex. Get the best information you need on <a href="http://www.BreakupCures.com/GetExBack.php">get your ex back</a> Get your love back using the unconventional method, the fact is thousands have benefitted by visiting <a href="http://www.TheMagicOfMakingUp.com">TheMagicOfMakingUp.com</a><br /><br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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<title>Five Bad Habits to Avoid in Your Marriage</title>
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<pubDate>Sat, 12 May 2007 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[ There is no misconception that marriage is easy. Most people know that marriage takes a lot of work, and like any relationship, it evolves – developing a deeper understanding of one another. This evolution of your relationship also creates new challenges - including many bad habits which, if you can identify and avoid, can be easily overcome. Read below for some common bad habits people develop in their marriage, and what potential they can have to ruin your relationship. <br> <br>#1 Falling into a Routine<br>Just because you are married doesn’t mean you don’t have to try to impress each other anymore. Getting into a routine sometimes means only doing nice things for each other on special occasions like birthdays and Valentine’s Day. Get out of that routine – you should be reminding your spouse of why they fell in love with you, not making them wish you acted more like you did when you were dating. <br><br>#2 Avoiding Conflicts<br>Every marriage will have its conflicts and disagreements. But trying to avoid a fight doesn’t make the problem go away, and in fact, it makes it worse by leaving it unresolved. Learn to discuss problems constructively and deal with them in a productive way. Nagging, yelling, and ignoring are not solutions and will only make matters worse. Bring up issues before they get to be serious problems and you may be able to resolve them sooner and with less conflict. <br><br>#3 Getting too Comfortable<br>One of the great things about marriage is that you can be yourself and know that your spouse loves you for it. Your days of nervous dating and “do they like me?” are over and aren’t you relieved! However, there is such a thing as being too comfortable. Burping at dinner, leaving dirty laundry around and basically acting like you live with a college roommate instead of your spouse can lead to a serious decline in romance. Be comfortable with your spouse, but also be courteous, considerate and clean.<br><br>#4 No Sex<br>One of the main bad habits people fall into in marriage is the lack of a healthy, active sex life. Time consuming work, children, and a boring routine can kill a libido – and have a devastating effect on your relationship. Keep it exciting, even if it means scheduling romantic time together. You’ll both be glad you did. <br><br>#5 No Fun<br>Marriage should be fun, not boring or stressful. Be spontaneous! Surprise your spouse after work with tickets to a movie and a nice dinner. Take a weekend trip even if it is just a bed and breakfast an hour away. Having fun doesn’t mean spending lots of time or money. There is no reason that you can’t manage a few hours a week for recreation together. Making time to have fun and relax makes a huge difference in easing a potentially stressful and unromantic marriage. <br><br>Like all habits, some are hard to break. If you have found that your marriage has developed these habits, it’s best to talk to your spouse about them and discuss ways that you can both work to revive your marriage and break them together. Maybe you can even start to develop exciting and new healthy habits in your relationship.<br /><br />--<br />K.S. Louman writes relationship advice for www.marriagemax.com. For more information on how to keep your marriage in good shape and overcome bad habits that you may have developed, please visit www.marriagemax.com. <br><br><br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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<title>How could everything change so dramatically?</title>
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<pubDate>Mon, 17 Jul 2006 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[ <br><br>I came across this quote today and wanted to share it with you. You may find that it relates to your marriage.  <br><br>“The difficultly with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality, but we must live with a character.”<br>- Peter Devries<br><br>We can only appreciate the profundity of this statement if we understand what is meant by CHARACTER. <br><br>“Personality” is easy to understand. Your “personality” is how people experience you. It’s your public persona.<br><br>But what is “character?” And why is “character” so crucial in your marriage?<br><br>Character is who you are when no one is watching.<br><br>Let me say that again so you can read it slowly and really digest it this time.<br><br>Character is who you are when no one is watching. <br><br>You see, when you and your spouse met, you met each other’s PERSONALITIES. You showed your spouse and you were shown by your spouse your public personas. I’m not saying you tricked each other. It’s just your personality…how you display yourself to others. <br><br>But marriage lasts too long in too close quarters for anyone to sustain a public persona. Personalities eventually give way to an INNER SELF that gets revealed for the first time. And there you each stand, naked as if no one is watching. But someone is watching. And that’s when you meet for the first time…again!<br><br>You and your spouse don’t meet the person who charmed each other’s friends, bought gifts for each other’s parents, and always smiled from ear to ear. No, this time it’s a meeting of your CHARACTERS.<br><br>In many cases, it’s not only that you’re meeting each other for the first time, but it’s that you’re meeting YOURSELVES for the first time.<br><br>Most people wouldn’t be caught dead treating anyone the way they treat their spouse. Most people don’t recognize their own behavior. “I’m just not myself with him/her.” Well then who is that person? That’s YOU…it’s your character. (And your spouse meets their character.) <br><br>The reason so many people fail at marriage and an attempt at marriage renewal is NOT that they don’t like their spouse. It’s that they don’t like THEMSELVES. And while everyone else in their life is like a mirror reflecting their personality; their spouse is a mirror reflecting their character. And most people don’t like what they see.<br><br>Many people would rather choose to be with someone else than remain with their spouse and have to continue to be with themselves. (Did you get that?)<br><br>Balthasar Gracian wrote in his 17th century manual on success, The Art of Worldly Wisdom, as follows: “You are as much a real person as you are deep. As with the depths of a diamond, the interior is twice as important as the surface. There are people who are all facade, like a house left unfinished when the funds run out. They have the entrance of a palace but the inner rooms of a cottage.”<br><br>Marriage renewal and individual character development go hand-in-hand. If you want to improve one, work on the other too.<br>Would you like more counsel? Subscribe to my FREE marriage help email service. Over 75,000 each year subscribe to receive the free report "7 Secrets for Fixing Your Marriage." This advice alone will begin to change your marriage. And you’ll also get 5 free marriage assessments and more information about Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel. There are no strings attached. You can sign up for free by visiting www.MarriageMax.com. <br><br><br /><br />--<br />http://marriagemax.com/marriage-counseling.asp<br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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<title>Did Silda Spitzer deserve to have her husband cheat on her?</title>
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<pubDate>Fri, 14 Mar 2008 00:00:00 -0500</pubDate>
<description><![CDATA[ Is he just a real sex addict or is his wife withholding from him? If she knew he was a sex addict, what could she have done? She could have enrolled him in to therapy, she could have left him. Did she know or was she totally blind about his escapades? <br />I am sorry, but I believe any woman would have an inclination that things were just not right in the relationship. I cannot believe that she had no clue. Did she ever confront him? These are questions that we do not know, yet?<br /> <br />What I do want you to think about is: would you want this to happen to you. Are you willing to take the chance of having your Partner/husband/lover/SO do this sort of thing to you?<br /> <br />IT COULD.<br /> <br />Right now ask yourself. Are you doing everything you can to keep your man in your bed? Are you satisfying him, as well as you can? Are you giving him what he needs on as much as a regular basis as you can? <br /> <br />I know you are tired, the kids, the job, and  the house. All time consuming stressful conditions in your life. I realize that. When was the last time you actually spent even one hour together? Meaning no kids, no computer, no TV. Just you two enjoying one another completely? <br /> <br />Do you need that? Would you enjoy that time together? Guess what he would too! <br /> <br />I know scheduled sex seems so clinical. But it is needed. There are 168 hours in a week. Can you find 1 hour in that time per week to give each other what you both need? I think if you try just a bit you can.<br /> <br />What could be the difference between saving your relationship and keeping connected?  One hour per week that's what!<br /> <br />What do you think?<br /> <br />Please comment<br />Thanks<br />Gina Grey<br />www.ourdatenight4woman.com<br />Email: ourdatenight@msn.com<br /><br />--<br /><a href="http://ginagrey.wordpress.com">GinaGrey'sBlog</a>. <br><br>Source: <a href="http://www.articletrader.com/">http://www.articletrader.com</a> ]]></description>
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